Why do you think older parents do this?

Curious an

Parents over the age of...23y/o judge teenage mothers? I am one and just because I am a teenager does not mean I don't love my children and it also does not mean I can't provide for them. Yeah, life is harder than it would have been if I had waited ( they weren't planned) but they still have everything they need. They are too young to know what they want ( 2 months old, twins) but when they get older and start asking for things they might want, they will get them. Not in a spoiled way, on special occasions or as a treat.

Just because I am 15y/o and a mother to twins, people assume I am terrible at it.

Just incase people ask. I studied a year ahead at school through out my pregnancy. Now I take work home. I work 4 evenings a week from 9-11:30pm, so I can put them to bed and they won't or rarely will wake up to their Nana. I don't live at my parents, I don't except hand outs from them. I rarely leave them with family to babysit, minus doctor/dentist appointments. I don't go out.

It pi**es me off people assume I can't do it.
I do receive some of their Father's money. He died before I found out I was pregnant but he had a will because of his line of work.
It is not a huge amount, just enough to get by. It was originally for his sister if he died but they died in the same accident, meaning his parents give it to me monthly instead.
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I think what people "my age (WAY over the age of 23...37 to b exact) complain about when it comes to teen moms is their DRAIN on the Welfare System! U state (so proudly) that U do not live w/your parents & U work a WHOPPING 10hrs/week. So my ? is this..who is paying for your apt/house? How are you feeding those kids? Who is paying your electric? Gas? Water? Cell? Internet? Car Insurance? Putting gas in your car? Cause, sweetie, U CAN NOT do that on the pay from 10rs/wk! So, someone else is paying for you and your kids! Whether it b their dad thru his CS (which wont cover all the expenses) or thru Welfare...U are not REALLY supporting your kids! Someone else is! So you are REALLY not doing everything for them...someone else is! How would U like to see your hard earned tax dollars going to people who have kids & then REFUSE to financially support them? Money that your family needs is going to support someone who doesn't wanna support their own! That is what "older parents" complain about!

P.S. U are 15 & not living @ home?? Wonder why that is??

How old should you be to....?

Niall Hora

1. Dye your hair/ just highlights
2. Wear makeup
3. Own a phone
4. Have a FaceBook
5. Wear shorts above knee
6. Got to the mall alone with friends
7. Have a laptop
8. Have an IPod/IPad

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Oh, I am gonna so get sooo many thumbs down.
1. My daughter was 9 and had electric blue highlights in her hair. She plays line on a boys football team, it was a trend- school color being blue.
2. I would have no issue with my daughter wearing makeup now, she is 10. She is a tomboy and does not care about makeup. I do not forbide it, which is why she does not request it.
3. My kids have had phones for years, I believe my daughter was sevenish. They are prepaids, they do care about them either. They very rarely if ever ask for a minute card. They are very useful for us because my kids play sports and do extra curricular activities. They will often need a ride a various times. No payphones in our town. Phones are useful. Plus I can gps their locations.
4. My kids have fb also. They are 13,11, and 10 years old. They have them because my son this past summer travel to Europe. Fb was a free easy way to communicate. They never used it, lol. And still do not.
5. Wear shorts above the knee. Any age within moderation. Fingertip test in my house. Again, not an issue with a tomboy. Tomboys do NOT wear short -- shorts. You would never wear anything but basektball shorts to play basketball in. Ah, the logic of a 10 year old.
6. As for going to the mall alone with friends. Not happening. Our nearest mall is 45 minutes away. Unless the kids can drive they are out of luck. Even if they could drive, still is not happening. In our state you cannot drive with passengers until you reach a certain age. No friends in cars.
7. Laptop, my kids all have laptops. We worked with computers and internet for several years. That is a given. Again, yeah my kids never turn them on.
8. Ipod- i woukd say 10 or 11 depending on the kids responsibility. They are expensive. My 11 year old had one since he was 10. As for an ipad, yup that ain't happening. Way too expensive, I do not even care if we can afford it. They want it, they can buy it.
So, I am not much of an "at a certain age", type of parent. Certain thi gs go with responsibility. One of my kids may be ready for something and the other may not.

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Holiday to Canada - what is there to do and see on holiday?

Dreamer

Toronto - 3 days
Niagara Falls - 2 days
Deerhurst Resort - 5 days
Pembroke - 2 days
Ottawa - 2 days

What can we do in these places?
I'm from Ireland and have never been there before, we want to make the most of it!

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What you do will depend on your preferences.

Toronto....live theatres abound, small and large, and movie/cinema theatres are everywhere and Toronto is frequently where major movies are first released for viewing by the public, even ahead of all USA cities.

Bars and Clubs for after-hours fun are readily available as well, and Toronto has major-league sports teams in baseball, football, soccer, basketball and hockey, depending on the season.

The CN Tower is a major tourist attraction, being the highest structure in the commonwealth, and from which you can walk onto an enclosed platform that lets you see most of Toronto from a height of 1200 feet. It also has a restaurant that revolves around the tower once per hour. Food quality and service there can sometimes be very good, but more often varies from good down to poor. Immediately south is a series of islands, linked by small bridges and accessible by a ferry that runs across the harbour, a distance of almost one mile , depending on destination chosen. The west end of the island chain is an airport, and it is accessible also by ferry
but there the distance from shore is only a hundred yards.

This can be a quiet and relaxing way to spend a day, or get away from the noise of the city for a picnic. Food and entertainment for kids is available, bicycles can be rented and swimming is usually open.

Across Toronto shopping is readily available, the area of Bloor and Yonge being the most expensive, but malls, both open and indoors, are all around the city. The Eaton Centre is the main shopping attraction, located right next to City Hall at Yonge and Queen Streets.

Underground shopping and entertainment is also right there, as underground passages that run from north of the Eaton Centre to Union Station (over half a mile) provide many underground stores, conveniences, restaurants and entertainment, plus access to above-ground things such as hotels, banks and theatres.

Transportation type varies, but is available all day and night in downtown areas, less in suburbs. Depending on your location, you can travel by bus, streetcar (electric cars that run on rails and use spring-loaded trolleys to connect to overhead wires) and subway. Taxis, of course, are everywhere, at all times.

Food choices are open to your imagination, as Toronto probably has the most choices of any large city, with restaurants representing the foods of every nation on hand. Most of it is even reasonable in price and fairly good.

Larges ethnic areas exist. In the east is Greek, then Indian/Pakistani, mid-downtown is Chinese and Viet Namese, plus Korean. Slightly west of that is Portugese, mid-north is the Jewish district and in between is Little Italy.

Toronto even has its own real castle, Casa Loma. It does not have the history of British castles, but it does have its own character and panache. Three is a large and well-renowned zoo on the east of the city, where the animals have freedom and YOU are caged....or it seems that way.

Bear in mind that Toronto is a LARGE city, so if there is a particular attraction that you want to see, check a map and/or ask for assistance before venturing out: travelling from the airport (north-west) to the zoo (east) is more than forty miles along the highway. That highway (called 401) is an adventure if you are unaccustomed to heavy traffic. Across Toronto it has up to 16 lanes of traffic....8 in each direction.

Niagara Falls.....a highly entertaining area. Scenery is nothing less than spectacular. There is an eclectic area on Stanley Street that provides the aura of a carnival, with a lot of things available, from adult and children's rides to a Canadian Madame Tussaud's Wax Museum. You can go to the Casino, as well, where you can spend money and/or watch the live entertainers, usually middle-to-upper class ones.

The Falls themselves are spectacular. They are the division between USA and Canada, and both sides offer their own views, but all visitors will agree they are best seen from the Canadian side. At night they are illuminated by coloured lights, and this is worth seeing.

You can take a brief (and expensive ) helicopter ride over the falls, or buy a ticket for the Maid of the Mist boat tour that runs all day, and takes you close to the bottom of the falls. They supply the rain gear......you WILL get wet anyway, but it is great fun for kids and adults.

Make hotel arrangements in advance, because summer visits are high season and some will raise the prices daily if demand will support it.

Deerhurst is in a comparatively remote area , approximately 100 miles (160km) from Toronto. It is largely self-contained. You get to relax there, enjoy the food, (which is usually quite good) play golf, and they have some entertainment in the evenings.

You could rent a car and drive around the area for a day and this would be highly recommended as some of the scenery is spectacular. (You drive on the RIGHT side of the road).

A little more distance and you can visit Algonquin Park, where a highway runs through the southern portion of the park and you very often see wild animals roaming free.

Fishing is plentiful in the area, mostly pickerel, pike and bass.


Pembroke....relax and enjoy. It is a small city, not that far from Ottawa. If relaxation does not appeal to you after Deerhurst, try white water rafting. Depending on the outfitter you choose, (OWL is the largest,) and the date of your visit, this can be demanding on your oarsmanship or you can go by power raft (early spring only) . This is because water levels and scenery change through the summer and some outfitters operate on less demanding waterway sections of the Ottawa River. A raft trip usually takes most of a day, meals are included, and no matter which time you choose, you are virtually guaranteed that it will be truly GREAT fun!

Ottawa.....Parliament city. Seat of the Federal Government of Canada.

Government buildings abound, and most are open to visitors, from the historical Archives to current items at the Art Gallery.

The Ottawa River runs around the city and the Rideau Canal runs through it. There are many parks and all have beautiful spots for picnics or just to watch the birds and other small wild-life. My favourite place is by Bank Street and Riverside. It is in downtown, but there are a lot of geese, ducks, gulls and an occasional groundhog or raccoon along the water edge and on a tiny island that you can walk out to. (the water is not more than waist-deep, but the bottom is covered with a few large rocks and many small rocks which can move under your feet. ) Excepting the gulls, they will come right up to you and take food from your hand. This week chicks, ducklings, and goslings are all around.

Be cautious with the parents, especially geese, as they are protective of their young. They like bread and Dollarama is the best place to buy bread....one dollar a loaf, which is often less than half what other stores charge.

How to divorce - he went to Canada - I'm broke and scared?

woodnymph

I bought a house before I got married and lived in it with my kids for ten years before marrying. Then I moved to the States where my husband bought a house in his name - illegally - he was supposed to get my signature on the papers, but didn't. I wish I'd realised then he was a piece of...(sorry, rather angry right now).
He then left me and the kids and moved to Canada, leaving us with nothing - but I stayed in the house (his house?) as he can't sell it without my signature. So we have a roof over our heads. He gives us no child support. He is threatening to try and get full custody of the children if I divorce him. Although he has hardly seen them in a year, just a couple of weekend visits. He's telling me that my English house can be the money to support the children, that I should sell it.I'm living off credit cards, and the situation feels horrible. I want to divorce, so I can start again financially -I am nearly bankrupt trying to support these children on my own. What to do?

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well, the honor system doesnt work, thats for sure. thats why they made state/federal law for child support.

no wonder your angry. he is a piece of you-know-what.

1) get a court order for child support.

2) contact your local legal aid office. all states have them, and are in most counties.they go on a sliding scale, so its free to most. look in the phone book, call your county court clerks office or your states Bar Assoc for the number.

make an appointment with legal aid and keep it.
3) if you have a child support order already, you can get a federal warrent for his arrest. ask legal aid how to do it.
4) contact all churches in your area. find out where the food bank(s) are. go weekly to them, this will free up money for other bills.
5) contact your board of public utilities (or what ever they call it in your state) and ask what programs they have for low income or single families. they have programs for gas, heat, electric and sometimes phone.
6) the redcross sometimes helps with cheap cars.
7) the salvation army helps with just about everything.
8) contact your social services office (county). get medical insurance for the kids and see what else you qualify for.
9) if you qualify for assistance with social services, your ex is responsible for paying it back. they will hunt him down like a dog for their payback.
10) they can take his drivers lisence
11) they can put a tax refund intercept on all state/federal checks
12) they can put a lien on all and any property he has
13) they will put him in jail, no matter where he runs to.

14) contact your regional Federal Child Support Office (if you have a child support order already). ask them what they are going to do about this deadbeat.
15) most people who go through divorce have to file for bankrupty, so dont beat yourself up about it. do it, clear the slate so you and your kids will have a better life.
16) post his deadbeat face on a deadbeat site online.

all links are below. one is a calculator; just click on your state and fill it in. both parents incomes are usually considered. it will give you a general idea as to what he should be paying.

the rest of the links are to help you. just click on your state and find what you need.

stay strong and stand your ground. you babies depend upon you doing so.
mom of 4

http://www.wantedposters.com/deadbeats_usa_a_to_f.htm
http://www.deadbeatjustice.com/list.htm

http://www.divorcelawinfo.com/
http://www.divorcelawinfo.com/calculators.htm
http://www.helpyourselfdivorce.com/child-support-calculators.html
http://www.divorcehq.com/deadbeat.html
http://www.lawchek.com/Library1/_books/domestic/qanda/childsupp.htm
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/oro/regions/acf_regions.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/region2/index.html

http://www.supportkids.com/
http://www.singlemoms.org/info/main.htm
http://www.singlemotherresources.com/
http://www.angelfire.com/nj4/njcomputerchick
http://www.parentswithoutpartners.org/chapterfind.asp
http://www.mowaa.org/
http://modestneeds.org/
http://freecycle.org/
http://www.salvationarmyusa.org/usn/www_usn.nsf
http://www.redcross.org/where/chapts.asp

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